Thursday, June 18, 2009
Stop complaining, Start appreciating
Have you come across some people who love to complain about anything and everything ? It could be about the weather, the noise, the pollution, their friends, acquaintances or relatives etc. etc. In short, virtually anything they experience becomes fresh material for complaining. Such people come across as eternally dissatisfied. They are the pessimists who see the glass as half full. They seem to get a superior feeling about themselves when they complain about others.
Such people will not spare even their near and dear ones. They seem to have a special eye for noticing weaknesses or mistakes and will not waste any time pointing it out. Some of them may be clever and crib only behind peoples backs while others who are more bold and blunt will be outspoken. There are some who are of a mixed kind who speak a few positive things but tend to focus on the downsides more than on the upsides.
Initially, we might enjoy the spectacle and feel that they are praising us by condemning others. Soon, however, we realise that a person who criticises others with us might be criticising us with others too. When we see such people, we naturally get put off and want to move away. Their negative thoughts and vibes sap our energy and leaves us with a bad taste. We feel more energetic and positive when we are not around them.
This blog is not intended to advocate that we should accept everything and never complain. The idea is to start focussing on the positive. If we choose to look for the positive, there are enough and more opportunities to find it. And when we appreciate rather than complain, people feel motivated to listen to us and to improve themselves further. Also, if there is something to change, the focus should be on making it happen rather than merely speaking about it.
Do you agree ?
A pessimist is someone who complains about the noise when opportunity knocks - Michael Levine
If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain - Maya Angelou
With the right attitude, you will start complimenting what you earlier complained about - Vishwanath Seshadri