Monday, September 21, 2009

Half full or half empty?

One of my cousins' came visiting recently. He was born 52 years ago along with a twin sister who was born a few minutes before him. When the doctors were trying to deliver him, they used forceps wrongly resulting in damaging his hearing permanently. He has lived with his deficiency which impacted his education and his career. When he talks about it, he is not bitter - rather he has taken it as the will of God. He is now happily married and the proud father of a beautiful and talented daughter.

Most of us have some special talents which we are born with. We also have some deficiencies. Some apparent as in my cousins case and some not so apparent. Some are born in rich families with no need to worry about their finances or security. Some are born in very poor conditions. The big question is how do we deal with our situations?

Do we adjust ourselves and focus on our strengths or do we let it overwhelm us and worry about the weakness? Do we thank the Almighty for what He has given us or do we crib and complain about what we lack?

If it something that we can cure or correct, we should make every effort possible. However, if the situation is permanent and beyond repair, it will useful to accept it and move on. It will help us sail through life with much peace and joy. It will be absolutely meaningless to carry a feeling of hurt and grievance in our minds. Such thoughts will only serve to make our lives bitter.

So, is your cup of happiness half full or half empty?


Being Pramoda... said...

HI Vish,

well said..such thoughts really make our inability out. Deficiencies and strengths are equally rated when take the life of any human being ..and its up to us, how we use our strengths to challenge our deficiencies ...

Thanks for the post ..:)

shri ramesh sadasivam said...

Hi Vish,

In life all of us are given some challenges. Such inabilities are one of them.

I don't know who coined the term 'physically challenged' instead of physically retarded. But he/she is a genius I would say.

Even if we don't have physical inabilities we might have mental shorcomings like inferiority complex, superiority complex, short temper, weaknesses for desires etc.,

The question is not, 'what we are given or what we are not given.' The question is how we use, that which is given.

Thanks for sharing such wonderful thoughts!

Rakesh Vanamali said...

More often than not, or rather in every case that I have seen, people born with disabilities take a more appreciable approach, always complimenting life for the good that it is! In reason, they are in better positions to criticize life than us.....but it is us who do that, and them, they live in complete admiration of their lives and the world itself! Quite a lesson to learn!

Anonymous said...

Strengths and deficiencies are part of we tackle them is important.Instead of asking if the glass is half full or half empty..we need to ask what's in it and what can we do with it..

A nice post..


Naags Nagarajan said...

Vish ... beautiful piece & good food for thought.

In continuation of your thoughts, it all boils down to one's view point on various aspects of life and the happenings around us. And, the way one looks at the half full cup of water determines whether he is an optimist or a pessimist ... a third dimension is the person who looks at the cup and sees both the empty & the full portions ... you might call him the realist.

Much as we would like to be realists, human beings that we are, we are swayed by the circumstances around us to be labelled as an optimist or a pessimist. The aim should be for us to be realists in most of the situations.

Rhapsody B. said...
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Rhapsody B. said...

Well it all depends on the context. I believe that the community, and the environment we grow up in influences how deal with disabilities and challenges (D&C).

Certainly when we are grown we have a choice in how we choose to allow D&C to impact, inform and transform our lives. like the title of this entry.....will we choose to see the glass as half empty or as half full.

great entry, enjoy the rest of your week.

manivannan said...

Nice post! And an very apt title :-) I like to share a wonderful joke in the film, No man's Land.

Know the difference between
a pessimist and an optimist?

No, what?

A pessimist thinks things
can't be worse.An optimist knows they can :-))

hope you liked it. And thanks a lot for sharing this post!

Have a cheerful day!

Cyrus Rumi said...

A great posting, brother!:)

One has to be accepting at one level, and at another level, be prepared to make necessary changes, if possible. Either way, one shouldn't really worry about their circumstances...within reason of course...and do their best to create a positive change:)

Namaste to you brother!


Ayesha Parveen said...

Krishna Himself has advised us to be 'samadarshi' in joy and sorrow.

A well-written post.

Best wishes :)