Thursday, August 13, 2009

Beauty in modesty

According to a popular saying in Tamil, a woman's real beauty lies in her modesty. I think that modesty as a characteristic makes everyone attractive and appealing. People possessing this trait feel no need to publicize their beauty or accomplishments. They typically seek to underplay things and prefer to let their actions speak for themselves. Leaders do not talk about what is already done. Their minds are set on the next goal.

Contrast this with people who rush to stake their claim to everything. Their self disclosure becomes boring very soon. They have such a low self esteem that they want a constant reinforcement for themselves. Even if they have no talent or have not actively contributed, they would love to be claim credit for every achievement. Most of their sentences begins with "I".

People normally do have a view about each other. They know who is capable and competent and who is not. They know each others abilities and character. No one forms a view based on our respective claim to fame. In such circumstances, isn't it better to be humble and silent about ourselves? Do we achieve anything by talking about ourselves? When someone boasts of a certain trait, it could provoke people to dismiss it or attempt to disprove it.

When other people discover our beauty, talent or traits by observation, they will automatically appreciate us and even inform others in passing. By not disclosing it ourselves, we are giving others a chance to talk about it which makes it far more credible. After all, true beauty cannot remain hidden for long, can it ?

"It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels" – St Augustine

"Your greatness is measured by your kindness; your education and intellect by your modesty; your ignorance is betrayed by your suspicions and prejudices, and your real caliber is measured by the consideration and tolerance you have for others." - William Boetcker

"Only an attitude of mind free from egoism, ostentation and attachment can be called humility." - Sri Satya Sai Baba


Anonymous said...

Indeed true talent or goodness cannot be hidden or overlooked for long.A diamond will always be recognized among stones...The greatest example we have today is our former President Dr APJ Abdul Kalam a truly humble and a modest human being..


KParthasarathi said...

Humility and ego are mutually exclusive.Where ego is there ,people tend to be insensitive and arrogant.
Humble people are great especially when they are well endowed.Is it good to be great or great to be good queried Socrates.
Rain bearing clouds do not make noise and roaring clouds do not bring rain.
sampoorna kumbho na karoti shabdam.ardha ghato ghoshmupaiti noonam.
praagnyaha kulino na karoti garvam

The inner strength of a man is in direct proportion to humility.
It is a nice post.Thanks

shri ramesh sadasivam said...

Hi Vish, A nice reminder again of the utmost important values.

There is a story about a fighting cock.

The owner of a fighting cock, gave it to a trainer in order to train for a challenge.
The owner came back after two weeks. The owner glimpsed at the cock, it was muscular, brisk and kept crowing at other cocks and kept pecking them.He asked the trainer if he can arrange for the duel. The trainer asked him to wait.

The trainer came back week after week. Each time he saw the cock becoming more skillful and violent.
The trainer kept postponing the fight.

After some time, one fine day the owner came back to see the cock, very silent lonely and away from the crowd. He thought the cock was sick.

The trainer told him to arrange for the duel. The owner got angry, "You refused to send my cock to fight when it was brisk. Now it looks sick and weak. You sent it to fight?"

The trainer replied, "When you came before this, your cock wasn't confident about itself. So in order to test its skills it kept challenging other cocks and kept creating a scene. Now that its confident it sits silently away fro m the crowd. This is the time to arrange for the duel"

Modesty is a parameter of Confidence in one's self.

manivannan said...

WOW! Very thoughtful. Vish the comments you receive are equally enlightening as your lovely post.

It's true modestly is the Nature of all Great men!

Thanks for sharing and inspiring :-)

Happy Krishna Jayanthi!

lakshmi said...

Yes indeed a women's beauty lies in her modesty
and Ramesh has given a beautiful story to back it up

Anonymous said...

"MODESTY / HUMILITY" -- The moment we think we had it, we lost it.