Saturday, September 12, 2009

Give a helping hand

All of us seek happiness. We experience happiness when our desires are fulfilled and our expectations are met. We experience delight when our expectations are exceeded. A natural tendency of man is to set higher standards or increase the expectations each time. Thus, every happy event also becomes a trigger for future unhappiness.

For many of us, the basic needs of food, basic clothing and basic shelter are taken for granted. With the grace of God, we have sufficient income and wealth, to be chasing higher desires. Yet, there are many around us who struggle for their daily survival. Their circumstances are such that they are not sure of when the next meal will come from or when they will get a change of clothing.

If only we convert our desires from gaining something for ourselves to giving something to others, the joy we will obtain will be tremendous. Normal selfish desires are insatiable. They are like the appetite of the fire which is never satisfied with the offerings to it. Selfless desires not only give us deep satisfaction but also give us joy of serving others.

Helping others need not be necessarily in the form of cash. It can be in kind or by way of service too. It is not a one time event but needs to be practiced as long as we are able. It is not restricted to human but can also be extended easily to other forms of life too. If taking care of others can become our purpose in life, every day will become joyful for us and the ones we impact. Our happiness doubles when we help others become happy.

“Not he who has much is rich, but he who gives much” - Erich Fromm

“True giving happens when we give from our heart” - Mohd. Ali

“You can have everything in life you want if you'll just help enough other people to get what they want!” - Zig Ziglar

4 comments:

KParthasarathi said...

Being a little kinder than necessary to those who are less favourably placed would give us immense joy and make our lives meanigful."There is no experience better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up"
Paropakaartham idham sareeram is the value that informed the noble and compassionate minds

Pramoda Meduri said...

**If taking care of others can become our purpose in life, every day will become joyful for us and the ones we impact. Our happiness doubles when we help others become happy.

these lines have touched me alott..and moved me as well..very well said..

and i like the quotes u include evry time :)

Manivannan Sadasivam said...

It's very nice to read your valuable thoughts after a long time sir....

Wonderful post here! I would just like to add a quote of Ramana Maharishi, "Pirrarruku Oruvan kodupathellam thanaku thane koduthukolguran" meaning- "whatever we give others, we are giving it to ourselves."

I'll try to catch your previous posts soon :-) Have a great Sunday!

ramesh sadasivam said...

In the Gita, Krishna talks about three kind of 'Thaanam.' (Charity.)

1.Tamasic- The giver doesnt want to give. But still gives due to some kind of compulsion.

2.Rajasic- The giver gives, because he has some calculation in his mind.He hopes to get some kind of return.

3.Satvik- The giver gives because the receiver needs it.