Love all, Covet none !!

Everyone is made up of the same elements, the same desires, the same mindset and the same kind of thinking. Each of us is in the same path seeking happiness for ourselves and our loved ones. The world will be a great place of each of us love one another and help each other to achieve our respective desires.

If we have an "abundance mindset" where we realise that the world has much more to offer than what any of us could really need, we will get less competitive and more collaborative. In contrast, if we have a "scarcity mindset", we will end up fighting for everything and leading unhappy lives.

Life can be so beautiful and so meaningful if we love one another. And if we see God's creation in everything around us. We can marvel at God's creativity when we look at and perceive everything and everyone. Even negative thngs can be looked at in this way and it will cease to hurt us as much as it did otherwise..

But loving everyone should not lead us to covetousness. Desiring something is a selfish act and loving everyone is a selfless act. Selfishness is a sure path to pain, while selflessness is a clear direction towards realising our full potential and creating a wonderful planet.

So, love all and covet none !!

Be responsive !!

What is the sign of life ? If someone is alive, a clear sign is that of the person responding to stimulus. If spoken / written to, a reply; if smiled at, a return smile; if hurt, a cry etc. If a person is not responding, he / she may as well be dead. So one basic responsibility of each of us is to respond to stimulus.

But response is not just about reacting. It is also about reacting with some thought around it. Reaction is negative. Reaction is more impulsive. Reaction is instantaneous. For example, if someone insults us, a normal person would react with another insult or a feeling of hurt. Response and responsiveness is to go beyond the normal pattern. It could be, in this example, to introspect and understand the reasons for the provocation and form a positive response to address it.

The two extreme positions to avoid are complete ignorance / lack of response and an instant reaction without thinking. The middle path as recommended will fetch you a better understanding of the world around and better relationship with all.

Be responsive and not reactive !!

Forgive & Forget

Life is short. With an average age of around 70 years of which a good 25 odd years spent in sleep and resting, we have hardly 40-45 years of waking time. If one takes off the time spent in childhood pranks and old age sickness, one hardly has 20-25 years of productive time. This is just too short to be wasted on undesirable pursuits and practices..

When we feel hurt and remember hurt, we are only re-living the experience over and over again. And when we hope, pray or plan to hurt others or take revenge, we are going through the same pain again. Anger is like carrying a burning coal in your hand with an intent of throwing it at others. You are only hurting yourself.

Instead, if you can ignore, forgive and forget, you are instantly releived of the burden and find instant peace. It gives you more time for productive pursuits, ideating or creating things that bring joy to yourself and others around you. It creates a positive image about you and makes you irresistable in the eyes of others.

Think of children and this is what distinguishes them from adults. They have no ego and forgive easily. This is what makes them so lovable and endearing to us. So do yourself a big favour - start forgiving and forgetting from this moment onwards. The past traits and image will fall off immediately and you will reap the benefits form this instance onwards. Enjoy Life !!

Spread Positive Energy !!

There are times in life when, whether we want it or not, we do feel low and depresssed. It could be due to some expectation or desire not being fulfilled or some other disappointment. At such times, we need some help in getting over our misery and we need someone to cheer us up. And when such an event happens, we feel great and relieved..

If we can tune ourselves to get this sort of positive energy from within, how wonderful life could be ! We could rid ourselves of our pain points in no time. If we choose to be positive and look at everything with this outlook, not only do we help ourselves but we also ensure that our misery does not get transferred to people around.

By being positive, we can also help people who interact with us when they have similar moments. And thus we can create a great environment around us. People will value our company and seek us out. We will have more friends and eventually benefit in more ways than one !!

What is the secret of being positive and how does one do it ? Well, in my opinion and experience, positive attitude comes from the realisation that worrying and fretting and fuming and being anxious does not help in any way. Rather, such emotions have a negative and adverse effect. Being positive helps us look at the brighter side of things, become more energetic and enthusiastic and help come up with solutions to every situation.

So, what do you think ? Be positive and see it for yourself !!

Treat Everyone Fairly & Well

The world comprises of so many different people and characters. I have always found it useful to watch with the curiosity of a child and observe the differences in people without attaching a value to it. Some people are frank, some bold, some stupid, some secretive, some faithful, some suspicious etc.

Initially, I used to get attracted to people with positive and desirable attributes and used to detest the rest. However, time and grey hair have taught me that it takes all kinds to make up the world. In fact, the world would be a very boring place if everyone was alike or everyone was nice. As they say, all five fingers of the hand are different but together they can do so many useful things, I have come to believe that diversity is not only good but also necessary.

Having said that it is but natural that I tend to appreciate differences and would prefer to encourage the same. Also, at the core everyone is the same. Each one has similar set of physical endowments, similar desires and similar dreams. Each one is striving for the same thing and it is better to recognise this and appreciate everyone.

Treating people equally and well also has its advantages - people respond positively to you and the amount of reciprocative behaviour is well worth the effort (if any). So, if you have a cranky neighbour or a nasty acquaintance or a naughty child, go ahead and smile at them and let them know that you accept them as they are. And see the difference !!

Welcome !!

Dear Visitor,

A very warm welcome to you. I am delighted that you took time to come to this site. I assure you that I will try my best to keep my blogs short and simple. I will look forward to your responses and comments to help me improve the style further..

My blog is purely intended to capture values and credos that have guided me. Most of these have been learnt by me through the course of my life and my teachers have been many. Whenever I hear or read of a value and it appeals to me, it has become part of my value system.

In these following blogs, I will try to capture those values and hope it will impress and inspire you to adopt the same.

Thanks for visiting my blog spot !!

sincerely

Vish